Every moment is a fresh beginning. — T.S. Eliot
I have done some writing on new beginnings, like when I moved forward and went from WordPress.com to a self-hosted website. While changes like these can be difficult, what about changes that we don’t decide on? Changes, especially unexpected ones, can be really difficult to deal with. Even if we are expecting the change, often times we are dreading it until it comes around. This could be getting a new job, going to a new school, leaving an old job, or moving to a new country. Here are some ways to make embarking on new beginnings a little easier.
Leave on good terms
If possible, try to leave your current situation on good terms. Even if you are dealing with a painful breakup, see if you can express your respect and appreciation for the other person. When you leave a situation on good terms, it makes transitions easier and avoids burning any bridges.
Focus on the good
What aspects of your previous situation will you miss? Be grateful for those. It sounds contradictory when trying to embark on a new beginning, but being able to see the good in every situation is a useful skill to carry throughout your life. See if there are ways to carry on these positive aspects into your new environment.
Enjoy walking away from the negative.
What aspects of your previous situation will you not miss? What aspects of it did you dislike dealing with on a regular basis? Be grateful that you don’t have to deal with those aspects now, and see if removing these negative elements from your life allows you more space to practice positive habits and engage in activities that will help you grow as an individual.
Examine different perspectives.
What are you looking forward to embarking on? How will it be different than what you were doing before? While change can be intimidating, it can also be liberating. When I graduated from college I remember being fearful, since I wasn’t sure what the future would bring me. Once I began to focus on how this new beginning could bring a lot of exciting opportunities it shifted my perspective, as I turned excited instead of fearful. Practice different ideas and see what works best for you.
Give it time
Changes like this can be tough to deal with, so be easy on yourself. Give yourself the time you need to process what is going on. There might not be any magic phrase or strategy that will make the difficulty of your transition vanish, but time can help make it a little easier for you.
Change can be good, as it can help us become a better version of ourselves. Beginnings can help us launch into a new sea of self-discovery and make our lives better than ever before. Approach this new beginning with an open mind and a positive perspective to see where it will take you. After all, what’s the best, and worst, thing that could happen?1